Thursday, November 15, 2012

No TTF. I’m Taking a Break

Hi Dear Friends,

Long post with no prettiness!

I am going to take the next couple of weeks off from blogging.

I have tried to write this post several times now but, keep breaking down. so, I am sorry that I am giving you such short notice regarding the Thrifty Things Friday party cancellation.

I am going to try to type this as quickly as possible so I make it through it.

As most of you know we have raised Lia (the princess) since she was 7 weeks old. She is the love of our life.

After little to no contact and no support, her bio mom, Amber decided she wants Lia. We recently went through a long and exhausting trial regarding custody.

We had to prove the 11 main “in the best interest of the child” factors of the custody guidelines. We proved all of those above and beyond any doubt. 

During the trial, while Ray, Amber’s husband was on the stand he testified that not only is he a convicted child abuser but, it was so bad that he was forced to give his child (from a different relationship) up for adoption. He further testified that he has been diagnosed with severe mental diseases/illnesses. He also testified that he is not getting any therapy for these issues.

Amber testified that she works graveyard shift therefore, all night long Lia will be left with this convicted child abuser that she doesn’t even know.

There are a lot and I do mean a LOT more horrific things we discovered during this trial. I don’t have the energy to get into them now.

Once the trial was over the judge, Susan L. Hubbard (Wayne County, Third Circuit Court, Detroit) stated she would get back with us in 2–3 weeks regarding her opinion.

We waited and heard nothing for 3 weeks. Last week we got a call from our attorney's office. They just received a notice from Judge Hubbard stating that she wanted to continue the trial and interview Lia. We did not receive this notice. Apparently, I believe it was just faxed to our attorney’s office. We had less than 7 days notice regarding this.

At the previous trial, we had asked the judge to do a video interview with Lia and the judge said "No, she is too young."

Our hearts dropped. We could feel something was very wrong with this.

All this time, we have protected Lia from knowing anything was going on. We protected her from the ugliness that was being fought out in the court. She is just a little girl and deserves to just be happy. Unfortunately, we had to tell her about going to talk to a judge and the reasons behind it.

She was so scared but, Troy and I kept reassuring her that she would be fine. Just go in and tell the truth. No pretending or playing around.

At 2:15 this past Monday, Lia was taken into Judge Hubbards chambers by a Wayne County Deputy. our attorney went to escort her in and the deputy informed him he was not allowed in the room. He was surprised by this. I went to sit in the courtroom. Amber was sitting in there as well. The next thing I know the deputy escorted Amber back to the judges chamber. Our attorney started heading that way as well since Amber was not allowed to go back with Lia and the Judge without our attorney present. Instead the deputy handed our attorney a packet of papers.

Judge Hubbard had ALREADY made a judgment against us. This entire thing was a ruse.

Hubbard (I can no longer refer to her as a “Judge”) did NOT consider any factors regarding the welfare of Lia. She dismissed anything that had to do with her best interest. instead she decided to say that our original guardianship was not valid. This was decided over four years ago in a completely different court system and she did not pull any of those earlier transcripts to discover the basis of our guardianship.

Hubbard obviously could not care less that Lia was going to complete strangers and into a child abusive environment.

Everyone was completely stunned over this judicial misconduct. But, to top it all off, we discovered that the whole point of bringing Lia to court was so Hubbard could literally steal her, hand her over to Amber and then send them down a back way. We were not even told any of this!

Hubbard hid in her chambers and refused to even speak to our attorney. Amber’s attorney came to us and said he needed Lia’s coat. that is how we discovered that they were stealing Lia without her even knowing what was happening or saying goodbye.

We raced down to the lobby and there sat Amber and Lia guarded by 6-8 deputies waiting for their car.

My parents were with us. I honestly didn’t care if a deputy shot me on site, I was going to at least give Lia, the little girl that I have raised her entire life, a hug. I was crying and shaking so bad. Lia asked me what was wrong. I tried my hardest to sound okay for her. I told her she was going to go on an adventure for awhile. NOBODY had told her what was going on. She did NOT know that Amber was stealing her away that moment to Utah. Yes, she was taking her 1700 miles away!

Lia looked at me with this beautiful innocent face and said, “Mama, I don’t want to go away from you and Papa. You said everything was going to be okay”. She started crying.

My heart shattered into a million pieces at that moment. She had put all of her faith and belief into Troy and I. And God help me, I couldn’t protect her!

It seems quite clear that Amber had previous knowledge of what Hubbards intentions were because she arrived with two car seats to take Lia away.

God I can’t stop crying!

They took her with just the clothes on her back. Nothing else. Hubbard did not even care if she had any type of medicine that she needed. Amber didn’t care about that either. Neither of them asked about Lia’s health. They didn’t care. They didn’t ask if we would gather some of Lia’s things together so she would at least have something that was hers and might bring her some comfort.

Needless to say, there were a great did of illegal things that happened during this vile situation. We have retained yet another attorney to start legal proceedings to get Lia back. WE WILL NEVER STOP TRYING TO GET HER BACK!!!!!

Troy and I have tried our hardest to keep everything low key and civil. And that took Lia away from us. Guess what? The gloves are off! The legal system just betrayed us but, more importantly they put a little girl's life in danger. I have NO trust or faith in the legal system anymore. I just witnessed the people whom we are suppose to trust commit horrendous crimes against an innocent and beautiful little girl.

All of this is of public record. So, I am no longer going to try to play nice and not talk about it.

Amber reads this blog. Early on in the beginnings of this trial, she actually listed as HER witness EVERY reader of The Thrifty Groove. Yup, you read that correctly. Why you ask? Because I did a post that asked for your prayers and good thoughts regarding this trial. I gave a simple summary of what happened. I used no names. But, now I will use names. Because like I said, it is all public record.

I am angry, heartbroken, disillusioned and completely sick over all of this.

The fight has just begun. It has already been an extremely painful and expensive fight and it just got worse. As any one who has had to go through anything similar to this and hire an attorney that specializes in appeals knows, the legal fees are through the roof. But, we had no choice! We are talking about Lia. My family jumped in to help get together the retainer fees so we could get an attorney on this right away.

Although Amber Haning doesn’t feel she needs to pay her bills, we do. We received a notice months ago from her original attorney stating he was going in front of the judge to have himself removed from the case due to the fact that Amber wouldn’t pay him. And “lack of communication”. Amber also has not paid child support that was ordered years ago. We are talking about a lousy $25.00 a week for the child she says she loves so much. Once again, ALL PUBLIC RECORD.

Can you tell I am angry? It beats throwing up constantly, not sleeping and continuously crying. Which has been the norm here for the last 3 days.

And we all know the lack of speed when it comes to the courts, so this will take time.

My entire family is destroyed over this. Everyone’s lives just stopped earlier this week. This is Lia’s family and these are the people who REALLY love her.

Since we have hired a specialized attorney and handed him over free rein, there is little else we can do at this point.

It has felt like a death here. But, it is NOT! What I personally can do is make sure that I take care of myself. I need to be stronger than I ever have been. I HAVE to do this for Lia. She WILL come back home where she belongs!

We have a family tradition of all of us going up to our cabin for Thanksgiving. Lia was so looking forward to this. When everything happened earlier this week, we basically (as a family) cancelled Thanksgiving. But, I realized at some point that if we did this, we allowed the monsters who were involved in this disgrace to win. Lia needs her true family to be strong. We, as a family, need to pull together even more than normal.

So, we are going up to the cabin. Lia will be with us in spirit. And I just need to take a break from everything and heal a bit.

So, I am not going to be blogging for a couple of weeks. I am not closing my blog. My blog is an escape for me and I need it. But, I need some time.

I hope you all understand.

On a side note. I will really be focusing on selling a lot of items. Normally I would say something cute like “I want to sell these things so I have more spending money for future treasures”. But, that is not true. The honest truth is, the financial burden we now have is daunting at the very least. this is our slow time for our business so, every cent will be used to help bring Lia back home. I will do anything and everything I can to make this happen.

Our business, DTL Herbs (which stands for Diann, Troy, Lia) will continue to sell the products that Lia has made. She made some cat toys, and reindeer food, so that she could donate money to a local animal shelter that she has friended. We will continue her work and continue to support her charity.  

My personal prayer:

Dear Heavenly Father, please watch over Lia. Please keep her safe. Please give her the strength she needs to get through this frightening time in her life. I ask you to guide her and stand with her. I ask that you give her comfort when I can’t. I ask you to protect this innocent child of yours. Keep her heart pure and body strong. I ask you to guide two of your fallen children, Amber and Ray. Although they have denied you, I know you won’t abandoned them. Please, through your love, keep Lia safe. I ask that you show Troy and I guidance, strength and courage through this ordeal. In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ Amen.

 

Please pray for Lia and for us. Keep us in your good thoughts. Thank you.

Diann and Troy

 

 

128 comments:

  1. Fight like you have never Fought before. Use ever ounce of energy and every $$$$. You can do this. Lia needs you to. Your readers are all behind you.

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  2. Words fail me.
    Like you say it tastes like a death. We've all grown loving the little fairy through your posts. I had no idea she wasn't from your tummy, like kids like to say. But I always saw she came and was in the right place - your Generous and Loving Heart.
    Soon, other Thanksgiving will come and we'll have another thing to be grateful as Lia is back to where she belongs. I wish that woman no harm. In fact I wish God Touches her heart and can heal the sadness that must live there.
    Feell my Warm Hug. I want you to dry these tears you and Lia put in my eyes. Soon! For you, For Troy and for Lia you must do it soon.

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  3. Oh, Diann, I am in tears for you and your family. The nerve of anyone using your readers names as witness...that was a grave mistake.

    I too am of little faith with the legal system...it is not there to protect the innocent.

    I will continue to pray for your family. Such a tragedy to the one who needed protection the most, Lia. My heart is just sick.

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  4. I am crying too hard to type what I feel.
    My life has been difficult this past year but nothing compares to this.
    I do not know how I can help but I will do anything in my power.
    Along with that I will pray to any heavenly power that will listen.

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  5. I want to cry and at the same time I want to shout and scream. This is child abuse and that so called "judge" needs to be removed. Please know that you are in my prayers.

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  6. OH Diann, my heart is absolutely breaking for you right now! I cannot, in my wildest imagination, even begin to know what you're going through. To say I'm sorry, would be the understatement of the century, but my heart aches for you! Please know I will be praying for you, your family and sweet little Lia. I can tell what she means to you through your blog, your words, and this post. I love you dearly, and just know I am praying. I'm praying for her safety first and foremost, and also to have her quickly returned to you. They HAVE to return her to you!! God bless your heart.....oh honey, Im so sorry. Praying, praying, praying!!

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  7. I can't believe it... really just can't fathom this happening. Oh I hope this incredible injustice is set right and soon! Diann, keep well, keep strong and let us know if there is anything we can do to help.

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  8. I'm at a loss for words, I will keep your family and Lia to the forefront of my thoughts and prayers. Sending love and strength.

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  9. This is the worst thing I have ever heard. I will pray for you and your family, and for special protection of Lia.

    Blessing to you,

    Mary (marylnail@bellsouth.net

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  10. I read your blog and just read this heart wrenching nightmare. My prayers will be with you till you get Lia back and is yours for good. Praying for God's protecting angels over Lia.

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  11. What part of the United States do you live in? This sounds awful and unlawful.

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  12. I can't imagine what you and your family are going through.
    Stay strong for Lia and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  13. This can't be true. It makes me sick! I too will pray that God will comfort Lia and return her to you soon. Is there anyone you can go to who has the authority to investigate this "judge?" I just....I can't wrap my mind around this. Prayers, hugs and blessings.

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    1. we are working on an investigation as well as getting Lia home.

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  14. Detroit is so corrupt. I am sending a letter to that affirmative action judge and her superiors. In the meantime, know you are in my prayers. Do NOT give up the fight!

    xo

    Andie

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  15. I'm so so very sorry. I may not have the words, but please know that you ALL have my prayers. As an adoptive mommy, I know how difficult and unfair the domestic system can be. Extra HUGS!!!

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  16. I just took a break from work and read your post. I am so sorry this is happening to your family.

    I will be praying that you get Lia back very, very soon and that you will get justice as well.

    Be strong

    Hugs,

    Miss V

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  17. Impossible things happen every day, Lia will return to your loving arms.

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  19. I am so sorry this is happening to you. Take a break and regain your strength and know that we are with you all the way.
    Sam

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  20. I went to school for Criminal Justice. I have witnessed first hand the same bull**** justice system you speak of. It's a shame that we have NO choice but to put trust into these underlined criminals.
    I am so sorry for the horrible, selfish act someone has brought onto your family.
    Since Amber reads this blog, I hope she is reading all of these comments. I hope she knows what a selfish person she is. I hope she knows she took an innocent child away from her real family.
    Diann, try to stay strong for the rest of your family. As a woman, we tend to be the glue to our families. Have a wonderful holiday! You, your family and especially little Lia will be in my prayers! God Bless! <3
    -Denise

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  21. I am just speechless over what you all have been going through and angry too!! What a nightmare!! I want you to know that I will be keeping all of you in my prayers and that will include praying for Lia's safe return to you. This just doesn't make any sense and is so wrong. Stay strong for Lia!!

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  22. I saw your post on Face Book and needless to say, I am sick to my stomach after reading this and hearing that a "judge" and I use the term lightly would even consider giving a child to a known child abuser...what on earth is wrong with that person!!!! I will be praying for Lia, for God's angels to protect her and bring her home HOME safe where she belongs!!!
    Terry

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  23. The "judge", Susan Hubbard is the single mother of a twelve year old girl, Jacqueline. I imagine she has no sense of personal responsibility if she could not even give her child a father. if she doesn't care about her OWN child, she sure as heck doesn't care about anyone else's. She has been running for public office since she was old enough to. Also quite apparent is her quest for power, especially in such a corrupt system (Detroit) you wonder what her motives are? Concern for the well being of the children and upholding the law or more power for Susan Hubbard?
    You don't have to post this but I want the world to know what type of individual you are dealing with.

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  24. Never give up! Never lose faith! As someone, who at 4 years old, similar to Lia, was taken back by her mother in the middle of the night with only the clothes on her back, I am crying for little Lia. The little voice who won't be listened to. I will pray for you and your family. Today at 52 years old, I STILL wonder what my life would have been like had I been left in the arms of my guardians. Lia's situation seems far more perilous than mine was, I was only subject to emotional neglect. But, still, to this day, I have trust and abandonment issues even though I am married to a wonderful, loving man and have a close family of my own. The scared child in you just never quite trusts again. Never, never give up the fight and be sure Lia knows how much you love her! She is young now, but be assured she understands more than you think. And what she doesn't understand is frightening. I can not tell you how upset this makes me, to say nothing of YOU! I trust that Lia will be returned to you. God can not allow such a travesty to happen. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you!

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  25. Dianne this is so heartbreaking! Please know I will be praying for you and your family. I am praying that Amber will moved to do the most self respecting thing she could ever do for herself in her lifetime and return that child. My gut is hurting after reading this, I am so,so sorry! Big Hugs!!!

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  26. Diann, I am sick to my stomach over this and can't even believe what I just read. This not a judge who is here to help, this isn't even a human being too me. I am so sad for you as I am wrting this, there are tears in my eyes for you and Hubbard and Lia. Again, I am so very sorry but you will fight to the end for this little girl.

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  27. This is the most horrific thing I have ever read Diann! This has upset me too the point that I'm crying and so upset about this for Lia. I can not believe a judge would do something like that at all! The way the judge handled it all is so disturbing to me. I can't imagine a judge handing an innocent child over to someone with the history of the mother and step-father. Unbelievable! I will be praying for you and Troy and especially for Lia. I just can't believe this happened.

    (((Hugs)))
    Angela

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    1. Diann I'm new follower visiting from Angela's blog,reading this breaks my heart,I'm so very sorry this terrible injustice has happened to your beautiful family,my prayers in "JESUS" name and that he will wrap his arms around Lia keep her safe and protect over her.

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    2. Can I have permission to re-post this story on my blog and ask for all prayer warriors to pray without ceasing.

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    3. Yes of course Jo May. Please feel free to share our story with anyone you know.

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  28. You can call the local police in Lia's town and ask them to do "wellness checks". They are obligated by law to follow through.

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  29. Forgot to ask in my first post...how can we be of help to you????

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  30. Well, this situation just sucks. While I don't know you, your posts have always included her in a primary role. Often, I think those looking in may consider it's "all done" and much like picking up a car from the repair shop. Ready to go! Soon Amber will learn that there is much more involved and hopefully tire/bore with the new "toy" (not to trivialize Lia in the slightest but it's usually how these mom-wanna-be's think).

    What can we do to help?

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  31. My God what a travesty of justice that has happened,.I do hope there is someway that that awful judge woman can be called to book... this is such a terrible story, maybe appealing to the president of the united states might make things happen;;; I do so hope so... all our thoughts are with you.. hopefully you will get the right decision made... but God is with you, stand strong and it will be made right I am sure... I do hope so... I just cannot believe what has happened... how could that judge not see how dangerous it was to release her to these people... that mother might have born that child, but putting her into such danger means she is no real mother... Hugs and hugs from across the pond.Janzi- no matter about the blog, you take time to get the thing moving and get that baby backxx

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  32. Diann Troy & Lia

    my heart breaks for you all going thru this and I will pray every day for Lia's safe return to you her loving family, I pray for your strength to get thru this horrendous time in your lives

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  33. Words just cannot express how bad I feel for your family, including little Lia. This judge has to be a very unfeeling person! I don't know how someone like that can live with themselves! I will be praying for your family!

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  34. OMG Diann, this is aweful news. My heart breaks for you, your husband and your family. The only thing I can say is stick to your legal plan you have in place and keep Family Services involved. Do not let those two "people" who took your child off easy. Constantly get Family Services over there to keep an eye on your precious as well as the police for a friendly visit. I will pray for you my friend. Diane

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  35. Dearest Diann & Troy,
    My heart griefs with you over this issue---and my heart will rejoice when Lia is returned to you!! Please know that you are in my prayers and will stay there until Lia is back--but please let me know how else I can help. My funds are very limited but I would be willing to send whatever I can to help you get Lia home where she belongs. Perhaps you could start a "Lia" fund on this blog, one where we could send money to help you with your expenses. I pray the peace of God will surround you, fill you and lift you both up until Lia's return!

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  36. Prayers from this stranger are with you and Lia. I pray you are all reunited soon. God be your guidance.

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  37. Oh God, Diann. Oh God, Oh God, Oh God!!!!! She WILL be back! Praying for you with everything in my heart

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  38. Just heartsick for all of you. Praying for God's protection and safety for Lia. I don't understand how these things happen. I am sure Lia is so confused. Praying God will give her peace and comfort as well as peace and comfort to you and your husband.

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  39. OMG prayers for you...and tears right now after reading this so I can't really say much because my heart is broken for you and your husband and OMG I will pray extra hard for little Lia / how horrible

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  40. I read this post twice....I cannot believe in this day and age that a judge would not see that this child was being taken from the only parents she ever knew. That amber does not have good judgement. What the hell! I am so so Sorry for you and Troy. I truly hope you have a lawyer who will fight tooth and nail for you and get your princess back. You will be in my prayers til Lia comes home.

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  41. You have my prayers. I'm also linking your blog on mine and linking you on Facebook. Don't rest until that "judge" is out of office!

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  42. You should take this to the national press and let the media expose this corruption.

    I'm so sorry for your loss and can't imagine what you are going through right now.

    I will be praying that you get your baby back.

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  43. Praying for Lia and you and for her safe return, Diann.

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  44. I agree. Take this to the news!
    I have been thinking about this all day. I would be dead for attacking those Deputies. My husband (a police officer) said the same thing.
    This is state funded kidnapping and that affirmative action HACK of a corrupt judge needs to be thrown out on her incompetent keister!
    Amber, you don't deserve that child. Give her back to her MOTHER! What kind of person MARRIES a mentally ill man who lost custody of his child due to abuse...then subjects her own child to him?!
    Do this for Lia, Amber, he will hurt her! You KNOW that! He has probably already hurt you. Do you think he will stop?

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  45. Diann, I am sobbing. I can't stop the tears. This is just too heart-breaking. I am so sad and so angry for you, your family and for Lia. What a horrible miscarriage of justice. You are on my prayer list, and I have already begun praying for y'all and for Lia. I have no more words, because I know I have no words that will help. Now, I can only pray, and I will be doing that. I just wish I could wrap my arms around you and let you sob on my shoulder. laurie

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  46. Oh, Diann, I wish I could reach through this screen to give you big hugs. I am so saddened by this terrible tragedy. My heart breaks for you and Troy and sweet Lia. I will keep you all in my prayers. Please do keep your faith close to your heart; this will turn around - it just has to.

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  47. Oh Diann, I am tearful reading this post. I am very, very sorry you had to go through this. I cannot believe they are exposing Lia to such s danger. Who appointed that judge? She or he shouldn't be one. I feel for you and Troy but most of all I am scared for Lia. I pray for her safety and I will pray for strength for you and Troy and that you get her back. She really belongs to you. Be strong and you take care and don't stop fighting. Lia needs both of you and I know you love her very much.....Christine

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  48. Diann I will be praying for you & your family and dear Lia. I cannot wrap my head around how this was handled by the court - it's horrifying.

    Amber - birthing a child is only a fraction of what it takes to be a mother. Loving, nurturing, and sacrificing your own needs/wants makes up the rest. Placing Lia in a dangerous situation so that you can be with a man who has demonstrated he shouldn't be around children is a huge indication that you're not in the right frame of mind to raise this little girl. Please consider how absolutely terrifying this must all be for Lia. Do the right thing for her.

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  49. My heart is breaking for you. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless you for the begining you gave Lia! If there is anything we can do please let us know!

    God Bless,

    Kim

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  50. Diann, What a travesty! I am so, so sorry that this happened and I am praying for the three of you. May you be reunited with your darling Princess very soon. She deserves loving parents, and that is you and Troy.

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  51. I am so sorry to hear this. I will pray for Lia's safe return to your family.

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  52. dear diann,

    i am heartbroken for you and your precious daughter. please let us/bloggers, know if you can find any media outlet or legal board or something, that we can write letters to. i have little money, but, i am thinking of some ways to raise some to send you. i do have prayers to give you. there is much love for you here in blogland. remember it and take heart.

    love and prayers,

    donna e

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  53. Speechless....praying for Lia, you, and your family. Do you have a legal entity where we can send even small contributions...maybe through a PayPal account? Cherry Kay

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  54. Oh my heart breaks for you. I so admire you for what you have undertaken. Please know you will be in my thoughts and prayers. I can not even imagine the pain. Know your are in our hearts.

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  55. Dear Diann...HOW could such a thing happen? How?

    That judge should have known that Lia needed her things, at least a stuffed animal or something.

    It could have gone so differently, if you were all allowed to sit down and talk with one another.

    Perhaps the judge could have observed Amber with Lia.

    Diann, I am so heartbroken for you. I am a STRONG CHILD ADVOCATE and this situation is beyond horrendous. It is just tragic.

    If Amber really loved her biological daughter, she would have known that ripping her away from the only mother and father she ever had would be painful and psychologically damaging for Lia.

    You would think the legal system would have thought that out, too.

    Oh dear God, your hearts must be broken into shreds.

    But Diann, this is the time to truly surrender to our Lord. GIVE HIM THE SITUATION. He will turn all things to good.

    How could they leave the state, though?

    My heart aches for you but you will be in my prayers as Lia will, from this moment on.

    You must be strong, Diann. God will help you. Please know that your blog peeps are sharing your sorrow over this horrendous loss. Place Lia in HIS HANDS. He will take care of her, protect her with His angels, and turn this situation around. Susan

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  56. Diann and Troy - have not been reading many blogs this past couple of years due to a part time job that has interrupted my life. A friend forwarded this link to me, and I'm horrified that this has happened to you - Lia deserves better! What was that judge thinking? Was she given a bribe? One certainly has to wonder! This world is going to hell in a hand basket, no doubt about that. I will pray for all of you and esp Lia - that you will have the strength to do what you need to do, and that courage and knowledge and God's blessings be with you during this time and in the future.
    Monica - Cedar Springs, MI

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  57. p.s. Diann, I have written my post for Friday on your tragic situation. www.writingstraightfromtheheart.blogspot.com I am a strong child advocate and your situation has saddened me terribly. Write to me at writingstraightfromtheheart@gmail.com if, for any reason, you want me to remove the post. I don't know what your feeling will be, Diann, but your post touched me deeply. Sincerely, Susan

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  58. OMG, Diann and Troy - I am absolutely sick at heart reading this. I'm struggling to understand why a judge would allow such a travesty of justice and for a much loved little girl's life to be turned upside down -- and for her to be in danger -- by this terrible decision. What part of child abuser dad and deadbeat mom didn't they understand??? You will be in my thoughts and prayers in the coming days, weeks and months. I pray that Lia will soon be back where she truly belongs.

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  59. Diann, this whole thing sickens me. Our system is messed up. I will certainly pray that Lia gets back to the home she knows and loves very very soon. Do everything in your power that you can to make that happen.

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  60. That is such a sad, sad story!, How do things like this even happen, it's a tragedy!

    I'll be thinking of you .....

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  61. Diann, my heart is breaking for your and your husband, for your family, and most especially for little Lia who cannot understand what is going on (not that ANY of us can understand that judge's decision). Please let me know if you have a Paypal account so I can make a small donation to your legal fund. Your prayer was beautiful and I will keep all of you in my prayers.

    Donna @ An Enchanted Cottage

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  62. Diann, if you get this message twice, I'm sorry, our internet crashed. We are all sending you our love and positive energy, what you are doing for your daughter is so amazing. We will continue to believe that this will have a positive outcome, because you ARE the right parents for this sweet girl! I hope you know that you have the support of everyone reading this post, and that good energy will take your family far! We send our prayers and hopes that this will all work out for the good of Lia, and you and Troy. xoxo, Andrea

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  63. I'm sending good thoughts your way for you and your family, Diann.

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  64. Oh Diane,
    my heart breaks for you and Lia. I can only imagine the turmoil you are going through. What is that judge thinking? obviously she is NOT! I will be praying for all of you to be reunited again soon!!!
    Hugs,
    Jann

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  65. All of you are in my prayers. God will serve justice.

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  66. I am a Paralegal and stories like these make me dislike the field that I work in. I have seen these things happen and it sickens me. I don't know what state you live in but where I am at they would have assigned a GAL Guardian Ad Litem for Lia. This would be a guardian appointed to represent Lia for this legal issue. I am so sorry how it turned out for you. I will keep you and Lia in my prayers. In the meantime, when this Judge is up for re-election I would certainly be pounding the streets to make sure she doesn't get back in her position.

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  67. I am horrified this has happened. My thoughts are with you all x

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  68. Praying for your family!! I have an idea to bring in more income to support your cause if you are interested. Email me at erin.branscom@gmail.com if you want more info. I have been reading your blog for awhile and I just can't believe this. :( Erin

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  69. i prayed your prayer with you. God bless you and Lia and protect her from harm.

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  70. Something is so wrong about this. If the judge wasn't guilty, wouldn't she have let you say goodbye? She knew what she was doing was wrong. It sounds like the judge was behaving in every guilty way possible. I am so sorry for Lia, and for your family. Hang in there!!

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  71. I can't even imagine how awful this must be for you and your sweet child. I'll be thinking about you and wishing for the best outcome!

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  72. I saw this at Jo's blog, Loblolly Lane. This is the most disgusting thing I have heard. What is wrong with the judge?? What is wrong with your lawyer???? I did not realize that Lia was not your own child. This is a nightmare. How do you give custody to a pedophile????? Unfortunately, lawyers are expensive but you need a real pit bull of a lawyer to fight for you. I will keep you, your husband and Lia in my prayers. God bless you as you fight with every thing you've got, Diann.

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  73. Diann, my hearts breaks for you all! I will pray that God brings Lia back to you! In the meantime, I know the love you have given her will be in her heart and will sustain her till her return. No one can take that away.
    I am so sorry.

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  74. Our most fervent prayers are with you and Lia!! I hope with ALL of my heart that you get her back!! I wish I could help more!
    ~April

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  75. I am aghast at how this has happened and am so sorry that it did. In California, we have special courts for children's cases, and each child is appointed their own lawyer. In some cases, the child is appointed a CASA (GAL) which is a Court-Appointed Special Advocate. I was one for many years. So the justice system is not equal in all states, and apparently Michigan's justice system really sucks. I will pray for Lia's safe return to your family.

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  76. This needs media attention at the highest level possible. Please contact every source you can. Peace be with you, Nancy

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  77. My heart is breaking for you. Especially since my grand daughter has lived with us since she was born also and I know I would just breakdown if something like this occured with her. Saying prayers that you are able to get Lia back soon and that the legal system does not fail you again.
    Maybe we could all flood the judge with letters or something..

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  78. This needs media attention at the highest level possible. Please contact every source you can. Peace be with you, Nancy

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  79. P.S. I will be reading your Bring Lia Home blog. We all want to be kept updated and we all pray for a happy ending. Yes, let's all bring Lia home! Whatever we can do, if it's donations to continue the fight or maybe write letters of protest or support, please let us know.

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  80. OMG....I sit here with tears streaming down my face for your family! I too have no faith in the judicial system. We are going through something very simular but unlike you we are able to see our two grandchildren as they are part time with us and part time with their father who is mental unstable. We have been through the gammit with the lawers, Judges, Masters and back again...over and over. All our daughter has wanted was for 50/50 custody of the kids and after going on almost 4 years we're at that point but it's not officially perm. The system makes me sick!!!! My granddaughter was abused by a family memeber and still she is going to that house after it was ordered that she not be there. It seems that it doesn't matter what their father does..he does not follow the rules and does not get punished for it....something is not right with the system.

    My heart is breaking for you and Troy! I have been a reader for quite awhile and I will be going on over to your web site and making a few purchases when I can to help you out.

    What a kind person you are for that prayer...I don't know if I could be as such. I will keep you all in my prayers that this lawyer will be able to get Lia back for you and as quickly as possible!!

    I'm so sorry for all your pain especially at this time of the year.

    May peace be with you!

    Sue

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  81. I have often heard that anger gets you nowhere. In this situation, that couldn't be farther from the truth. Let your anger be the driving force you need to get your precious Lia back. Being physically ill and sad will only deplete the much needed energy that you will require in this fight. My family is praying for you. Please be sure to keep all of us posted as to what we can do to help in the fight. We may not all be there physically, but a lot can be done via phone, mail, and the internet. You will get her back. I know it.

    Erica

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  82. Diann and Troy, I would like to share on Facebook this and the previous post about your court hearing. Hoping that friends will share and someone will come up with a suggestion to help you with this. My husband asked that I tell you to call Charlie LeDuff from Channel 2 (I think) If you would rather I didn't share on facebook, please let me know

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  83. OMG, Diann, I can't believe a judge would put actually contemplate putting a child in such danger by allowing a convicted sexual predator to have any contact with her. And to just snatch Lia from you with no warning, to either you or poor little Lia, is beyond belief. Something is very, very wrong with our judicial system.
    I am praying that you get Lia back before any further damage can be done...the poor child must feel so abandoned due to this ruling from an idiot judge.

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  84. Hello!
    I'm from Brazil, I found the link to your blog in blo Writing Straight From The Heart, and there posted this on his case and his beautiful princesa.Eu not know what to say except to tell you to not give up, have a lot of faith, divina.Você win in court and will bring Leah back, for you and your family to live in peace and complete happiness.
    I beg to apologize for entering the subject, I know that I am a foreigner, but I am a mother and grandmother, I have a granddaughter on my care, even with this father (that's my son).
    Be forces that anger, and try to find the strength to fight her that this just beginning.
    Cheers and good luck.
    http://wwwavivarcel.blogspot.com.br

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  85. Diann,

    I don't know you, but we share a mutual friend who has shared your story with us. I am absolutely sickened by what has happened to your family and to your little girl. I am sending as much positive energy as I can to you and will be sharing your story. I hope the legal system does not fail you twice and that your Princess is returned safe and sound.

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  86. Please install a donation button on this site..We're not rich people..but we are good people..and every dollar can and will help you fight this crime...And what has happened is a crime to Lia...
    ~~Blessings~~

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  87. I'm just putting this on my Fearless Friday post in the comment section..actually also on Face book where I have some other prayer warriors that follow along with me and join in prayer.

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  88. We are facing some 'issues' also and I found this Word from God ..I thought of you right now and what is happening...granting us 'sound speech that cannot be criticized, so that the opponent will be put to shame without anything bad to say about us. Titus 2:8.....I also felt that this 'mess' would become God's message of power and glory revealed. Faith is seeing the invisible (and I add to that becoming visible!~ ) Believing the impossible and receiving the incredible. I am praying for Lia's angels to guard her in all of her ways right now in a mighty powerful way, a hedge of protection, that this woman Amber (the bio) will rise up and do what is best for the child, placing this child first above all things ...I pray for this Judge as what her title states, ...I pray for God's will to be done..show justice upon you because of the attacks of the enemy. I am praying God will open doors of favor with the news, with newspaper..just getting this out for others to see, to read, to hear....this IS not acceptable!~~~~~~

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  89. Just headed over to let you know a few have gather around your family..one faithful prayer warrior that has been praying by my side for close to four years now with Fearless Friday commented that she has been praying and was just dumbfounded by the ummm cough cough..judge? this is my comment back to her. I've have such a righteous anger bubbling over Janel Ziobro Tenerelli.....it's disgusting but God is for them and not against them EVEN though a judge is..God WILL never forsake them nor leave them...we WILL see the hand of God move POWERFULLY and MIRACULOUSLY in and through this!~

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  90. Diann,
    I am so sadden about this awful ordeal that y'all are going thru. As tears roll down my face, I will be sure to pray for Lia's safe return to you (her family). Stay strong my friend, and always remember..prayer is powerful.

    Blessings,
    Linda

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  91. I am sick and heartbroken for you. You, Troy and Lia are, and will continue to be, in my thoughts and prayers. Fight with everything that is within you. You will find the strength that you need.

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  92. Dearest Diann, I have not been blogging for a couple of months due to ill health. I haven't even been checking my email regularly. I just sat down and pulled up my email for some reason. You, Troy and Lia are the reason. I cannot even imagine the heartbreak and fear you are going through. How could something like this take place in America? Where are our morals and where are our moral officials?
    My heart breaks for you and your sweet family. You are in my prayers. I trust our Lord and I pray that he will intervene in a mighty way. May little Lia have angels surround her and may she be protected from harm, physical and mental.
    Be strong in the Lord,
    Prayerfully, Ginger

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  93. I've been away and just reading this Diann. OMG, I can't believe this has happened to you and your family, and most of all your little Lia! This is a stunning story should be broadcast from the airways. This is unheard of how this Judge handled this case and the public needs to know about her! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and I pray especially for Lia. Take care of yourself, you need to be strong to get through this.

    Blessings to you and your family.
    Emily

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  94. is there any way all us bloggers can either start making calls to the court or sign an online petition....something as a mass group of people ....this is horrible and our family has had dealings recently with a family court judge in NJ....what is happening to these judges making these awful opinions ....they need to be stopped somehow....if you post the phone number of the Judges office I am sure all 102 people plus that have left you a comment on this would be happy to call and let this judge know what we think.....God bless you and your family....You will get her back....

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  95. is there any way all us bloggers can either start making calls to the court or sign an online petition....something as a mass group of people ....this is horrible and our family has had dealings recently with a family court judge in NJ....what is happening to these judges making these awful opinions ....they need to be stopped somehow....if you post the phone number of the Judges office I am sure all 102 people plus that have left you a comment on this would be happy to call and let this judge know what we think.....God bless you and your family....You will get her back....

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  96. Diann I can't believe I woke up and this nightmare is true! I am so angry and sad at the same time. PLEASE know how much I love you, Troy and Lia and will be here for you always. I am praying and crying and trusting God to bring Lia home!

    Linda

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  97. HUgs..sending thoughts and prayers to you all and hugs of comfort and peace to your precious one! Keep spirited and strong...
    Victoria

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  98. Oh, Diann! My heart is breaking for you and your family. You certainly have my prayers and I stand with you that God will bring your little princess home and soon.
    Blessing,
    Shelia ;)

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  99. I am praying with all my heart for you and that precious child. This is an absolute travesty of the judicial system.

    Laura

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  100. Diann and Troy
    This just broke my heart! I've posted a link to my facebook to get the word out.

    Please know my heart has grieved for you and have prayed all weekend! I believe that God is going to turn this around and work all things out for your and Lia's good. He is a good God and nothing is impossible with Him.

    I believe that justice and righteousness will prevail!

    We are standing with you until Lia comes back home to you!

    Love you and praying,
    LaDonna

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  101. Just want you to know that you, Troy and Lia are in my prayers and thoughts. I pray that the Lord surround Lia with His angels protecting her from all hurt, harm and danger. And I pray that He will give you and Troy peace that passes all understanding (Philippians 4:7) through this whole ordeal. And then I pray for Amber and her husband...that God will change their hearts for the good of what is best for Lia. God can change the impossible to the possible...Matthew 19:26b
    Sending hugs to you...Veronica

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  102. Lia will come back home to you. She has to. I am so angry at what had happened, this is sad. Keep fighting for her, she needs you.

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  103. Is the biological father ever going to be in touch with Lia? If so, what about bringing this to the attention of Bill O'Rielly's "The Factor"? He hates child abusers!!!

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  104. My sister posted the link to your blog on FB...I linked this poem http://anotherporch.blogspot.ca/2012/11/in-arms-of-grace.html I wrote after reading, this to your blog. The power of prayer WILL carry you...His will be done.

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  105. Dear Diann and Troy, my heart breaks when I read this story. It is good that you also pray for Amber and Ray, as it says in the Lord's Prayer :" forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sinned against us, deliver us from evil...". A powerful prayer like this works wonders. My thoughts are with you! Take care of yourself.

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  106. Oh dear Diann - How did I miss that this was happening. There is not one single thing about what this judge did that sounds legal or ethical. I will prayer for your and send good thoughts. Stay strong...your sweet baby needs you and she knows you are fighting for her. This just makes me want to cry too.

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  107. Just want you to know there are people here reading your story and joining the prayer-force!

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  108. I hope with all my heart that precious angel is safe. How could any Judge give a child to a child abuser who not only admits it but already lost a child.What is up with the legal system there? Can you call CPS and tell them your child is in great risk ? Please report it. If it's on record they have to follow up.From what you are saying you have a strong case , the bio has had no contact, has not paid support ect. I am part of another fight for justice for another girl murdered after being given to foster care. I cannot believe this is happening in America. I am Australian but even our system is better than this.

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  109. Oh My!I'm filled with rage as if it was one of My own.My B/P I'm sure just went sky high,My heart is really raising.I may have to get off the computer and calm down.I just feel like screaming.Why is this person still allowed to be a Judge . His or Her licence needs to be taken away. Oh Lord ,I haven't responded in a way a Christian is known to respond,but I'm publishing this response anyway,just in case the "Judge" ever reads this.I want her or He to know how I feel.

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  110. Dear Diann, my own family has been adversely affected by the court system as well. It's frightening to see or hear of so many judges looking out for the best interest of the abusive parent, rather than the child who suffers! I thank God that things worked in our favor eventually, the hard way unfortunately, and NO THANKS TO THE COURT SYSTEM! My heart goes out to you, and I will keep Lia in my prayers. ((love -n- hugs)) ~tina

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  111. Oh my gosh, I am in tears. I feel so bad for you and Troy. I can't believe this happened. If you need ANYTHING from us, please let us know. I just can't believe this. I feel just so horrible. I wish there was something I could do. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers. I just can't believe this. I am so sorry. I can't even imagine the pain you're going through right now. Fight like hell and show NO mercy. This bitch and her "companion" are going down.

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  112. Oh my gosh, I am in tears. I feel so bad for you and Troy. I can't believe this happened. If you need ANYTHING from us, please let us know. I just can't believe this. I feel just so horrible. I wish there was something I could do. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers. I just can't believe this. I am so sorry. I can't even imagine the pain you're going through right now. Fight like hell and show NO mercy. What a horrible and sick person to be doing this to you both.

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  113. My boyfriend, who is regularly in touch with different state officials said you should contact ATTY General Bill Schuette's office. He said make sure you have all your ducks in a row before contacting them. I hope this helps. I will be keeping your family in my thoughts.

    Camilla

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  114. My utmost prayers and thoughts are with you! May God intervene and return the lovely child back to yOu!! I'm saddened to hear of this outrageous behavior and hope for a successful reunion. Prayers!! Xoxo

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  115. Oh Dianne my heart is so hurting for you guys I will keep you three in my prayers I am so sorry this is so wrong! you have the fight in you don't let them brake you down. Love and Prayers
    Teresa Kentala
    mrsk414@aol.com

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  116. My Dearest Diann,

    How my heart aches for you, Troy and Lia. What amazes me, is, that once again a responsible, law abiding citizen gets the gears. This person, Hubbard, is suppose to be educated? I'm not a court judge, and I would never live near a convicted child molester if I had kids, and she put Lia in a home with one and not only that, Amber works nights and Lia will be alone with this stranger for hours.

    Did this Hubbard know that we as parents say to our kids when they were young, "Do not talk to strangers?" HELLO Hubbard, are you there??????

    It makes me sick! I had a Supreme court judge put it down that my ex was to give me $10/month for child support. And may I say that every cheque bounced. Sometimes you wonder what these judges are smoking!! What gets me is that they are not accountable for their decisions. THEY are JUDGES(gods in their own mind).

    My prayers are with you at this time and I hope you get Lia back into the loving home she deserves to be in.

    Pam
    xox

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  117. just found your blog and am so shocked by this terrible course of events. How could the justice system fail this child so miserably- it's unconscionable! They acted in no regard for Lia's emotional health let alone safety. Hoping this works out quickly and the "judge" is relieved of her position. Thoughts are with you!

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  118. Hi,
    I worked for DCF in Florida and while it's true that every effort is made to reunite children with the bio parents, the child's well being is paramount. No bio parent gets the child(ren) back without working a case plan tailored to them. Anger management programs, drug/alcohol treatment, batterers intervention and so on. A case plan is monitored by social services and the court. Was any of this done? I would contact DCF in Utah and explain asking them for a "home" visit if you know where they are. Contact the Judicial oversight board regarding the judge. Your lawyer can help. I wish I could say this never happens but it does. Good luck and God bless. Dee

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Thank you for taking the time to comment! I hope you have a wonderful day! Diann :)